We’ve had a lot of people ask us about courting. I know we’ve touched upon it in the past, but we decided to make it in a blog post all on its own. “You don’t date a married man…” Whether you live plural marriage or not, you want your husband to stay honorable to you, honorable to your marriage vows, or covenants, or whatever applies to your relationship. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and choosing to live your life with someone, and committing yourself to them, is a beautiful thing. You want to keep that relationship strong, and be faithful to what you have already established. The trust
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Near the community we live in, at the gateway to Zion National Park (arguably one of the most beautiful places on earth), there’s a few scant remains of what was once a small Mormon farming community. Some foundations, a graveyard, and one remaining home are all that is left as evidence of its pioneer history. Before the arrival of the Mormon pioneers, this canyon along the East Fork of the Virgin River was home to natives of the Paiute Tribe. Before them, it was home to Ancestral Puebloans who made homes in the cliffs and farmed along the river bottom. Evidence of their time still remains as well. It’s
Watching the Tell All! That was intense! We all got together last night and watched the Seeking Sister Wife reunion episode (aka the Tell All) and we were not expecting that ending. We are saddened to hear about Vanessa leaving the Snowdens. We got to meet them in person after the tell all and thought they were a great family. We respect that Vanessa continued forward on her path and stayed true to herself and the journey she needed to follow. Life is too short to not be happy! The choice is yours! Many have thought that we only live this way because we feel we HAVE to. But
“…A highly sacred, sensitive, and secretive topic” Plural marriage has always been a part of my life, as a highly sacred, sensitive, and secretive topic. As I grew older and had a larger span of social circles, I realized how controversial the topic was. I came to realize there was a stereotypical illusion of what Polygamy/Plural Marriage was…and it did NOT reflect what I knew it to be. “You’re not a polygamist!” “You’re not a polygamist!” Was a response I knew all too well, as acquaintances found out my family structure and my belief system. “My mother was a second wife,” I would respond. “But, you don’t dress like ‘them’.” Them,
“My family has always taken a stance of “live and let live.”” I come from a very diverse family. Growing up with that diversity has helped me to have an open mind throughout my life. While I have ancestral lines that have chosen to live plural marriage, the practice of it in my life began with my grandmother. I am the only descendant in the third generation that has decided to live it. Most of my relatives in the second generation have decided not to live it as well. I’ve been somewhat the odd one out, since choosing to live in this controversial lifestyle. However, my family has
If you haven’t read “What’s in a Name (Part 1)”, follow the link below. https://thewinderfamily.wordpress.com/2018/10/11/whats-in-a-name/ “Are we Mormons? Are we LDS? Are we FLDS?” A common question/complaint/misunderstanding that we’ve seen floating around since our public debut has been what our relationship is to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and the group known as the FLDS. After the premier of the show, we saw in a few places that people were pretty bent out of shape that we referred to ourselves as Mormons and discussed our background in the LDS church. I remember seeing one comment where a lady who I’m sure is very sweet and
“Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” Matthew 5: 14-16 Accepting opportunities to grow This scripture was weighing very heavily on our minds this past spring as we considered accepting an opportunity that we never imagined would come to us. It took many months of prayer and consideration
Sharing my experiences so far in plural marriage We’ve decided to share our experiences over the past year of living in our plural marriage. I’ve experienced more over the past year and learned more than I can ever hope to share, especially in this short post. I’m writing this post after midnight though and that seems to be a common theme in the life of a man in a plural marriage. It’s hard sometimes to find quiet moments for introspection and reflection. One of my biggest struggles so far has been finding time for myself. I knew that my life would be more busy and I have always been
As I look back on everything that has happened over the last year It’s crazy to compare where we were when we started, to where we are now. In doing that comparison, I can see how blessed we are, and how strong we are in choosing to live this way. As well as how far we have come in adapting to this lifestyle, and finding our own groove in it. When we got married, we had no idea what we were doing, or how things should look or be, in a plural situation. I thought that I’d have a better idea, having grown up around plural marriage…but then I
I’ve always loved religious music. From many different beliefs, it tends to uplift and focus our thoughts upwards, on our “higher” selves and that in turn helps us to focus our goodwill outwards to those around us. The music of Mormonism is, naturally, the religious music that speaks the most to my heart, since it’s the music of my background, my heritage, and my faith. In recognition of the fact that sacred, worshipful music plays such a large and beautiful role in our lives and that we are surrounded by so much of God’s natural handiwork in this choice land that we live in, we’ve decided that on the