My Fertility Journey

My Fertility Journey

“At a loss, I went searching for more answers.” Continued…(For part 1 please read “Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness“) At a loss, I went searching for more answers. I had already been learning from a book called “Taking Charge of your Fertility” but decided to take it more seriously and start charting and taking my temp to try and understand my body and what was going on with it. A friend recommended the Tempdrop. Instead of spending more money on ovulation sticks I decided to get the Tempdrop and temp for several months to confirm when my body ovulates. “I had no other options…I was hopeful I would gain

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When Are You Going To Have Kids?

When Are You Going To Have Kids?

Adding children to the family Since we appeared in the second season of Seeking Sister Wife, we’ve frequently been asked about adding children to the family. Some of those questions have been for me, but most of them have been for Sophie. I can understand why; plural marriage is inherently connected with big families with a lot of kids. Polygamy across cultures and religious beliefs also has a lot of different standards, so some seem to believe that having children can be a way to measure a woman’s status. I understand why there is so much interest in this topic. That being said, I also feel like it is

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Courting

Courting

  We’ve had a lot of people ask us about courting. I know we’ve touched upon it in the past, but we decided to make it in a blog post all on its own. “You don’t date a married man…” Whether you live plural marriage or not, you want your husband to stay honorable to you, honorable to your marriage vows, or covenants, or whatever applies to your relationship. Marriage is a beautiful thing, and choosing to live your life with someone, and committing yourself to them, is a beautiful thing. You want to keep that relationship strong, and be faithful to what you have already established. The trust

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Sophie: “My reasoning to participate in Seeking Sisterwife”

Sophie: “My reasoning to participate in Seeking Sisterwife”

“…A highly sacred, sensitive, and secretive topic” Plural marriage has always been a part of my life, as a highly sacred, sensitive, and secretive topic. As I grew older and had a larger span of social circles, I realized how controversial the topic was. I came to realize there was a stereotypical illusion of what Polygamy/Plural Marriage was…and it did NOT reflect what I knew it to be. “You’re not a polygamist!” “You’re not a polygamist!” Was a response I knew all too well, as acquaintances found out my family structure and my belief system. “My mother was a second wife,” I would respond. “But, you don’t dress like ‘them’.” Them,

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Colton: Why I chose to be on a TV show

Colton: Why I chose to be on a TV show

  “Hello, this is a bit out of the blue. But my name is … and I am a producer for various shows in the television industry. I helped cast the first season of seeking seeking sister wife towards the end of casting. Now we do not know if there is a season 2 yet but if there was would you and your family be interested this time? If so I would love to talk possibilities. The show is about families journey into finding the perfect fit even if they don’t find the right one. Thank you for your time. Hope to hear from you.” That’s how it all

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Tami: “Why I chose to be on Seeking Sister Wife”

Tami: “Why I chose to be on Seeking Sister Wife”

Choosing to have a voice Out of everyone in the world, I’m the last person I would ever have guessed would do a TV show, let alone live in as controversial a lifestyle as plural marriage- yet I’m happily doing both of those things. Life has a way of throwing you curve balls and being on a TV show about plural marriage is full proof of that. I’ve always been quiet and shy. I can stand up for myself if I want to, but it seems there have always been other people in my life that have always done it for me. They usually do it quite well. Not

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What’s in a Name? (Part 2)

What’s in a Name? (Part 2)

If you haven’t read “What’s in a Name (Part 1)”, follow the link below. https://thewinderfamily.wordpress.com/2018/10/11/whats-in-a-name/ “Are we Mormons? Are we LDS? Are we FLDS?” A common question/complaint/misunderstanding that we’ve seen floating around since our public debut has been what our relationship is to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and the group known as the FLDS. After the premier of the show, we saw in a few places that people were pretty bent out of shape that we referred to ourselves as Mormons and discussed our background in the LDS church. I remember seeing one comment where a lady who I’m sure is very sweet and

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A Light on a Hill

A Light on a Hill

“Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”   Matthew 5: 14-16 Accepting opportunities to grow This scripture was weighing very heavily on our minds this past spring as we considered accepting an opportunity that we never imagined would come to us. It took many months of prayer and consideration

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Sacrifices and blessings

Sacrifices and blessings

Sharing my experiences so far in plural marriage We’ve decided to share our experiences over the past year of living in our plural marriage. I’ve experienced more over the past year and learned more than I can ever hope to share, especially in this short post. I’m writing this post after midnight though and that seems to be a common theme in the life of a man in a plural marriage. It’s hard sometimes to find quiet moments for introspection and reflection. One of my biggest struggles so far has been finding time for myself. I knew that my life would be more busy and I have always been

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A year in review…

A year in review…

As I look back on everything that has happened over the last year It’s crazy to compare where we were when we started, to where we are now. In doing that comparison, I can see how blessed we are, and how strong we are in choosing to live this way. As well as how far we have come in adapting to this lifestyle, and finding our own groove in it. When we got married, we had no idea what we were doing, or how things should look or be, in a plural situation. I thought that I’d have a better idea, having grown up around plural marriage…but then I

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